How to Regain Your Confidence When It’s Been Shattered

How’s your mojo?

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Do you need to regain your confidence? It’s funny how, when you are younger, you presume that older people really have their act together. You might have considered them stuck in their ways or old-fashioned, but I’ll bet it never occurred to you that they may be lacking confidence. Certainly I doubt you considered that when you were over 50 you’d be having crises of confidence. Getting older is full of surprises, isn’t it!

Losing confidence is normal when you are experiencing an unhappy time at work. You may feel undermined by the people around you, or feel critical of your own level of achievement. Whatever the cause, it is important that you try to regain your confidence before you begin any sort of career transition. Confidence can mean the difference between you making that transition easily or struggling.

How do you build your confidence? Here are five critical steps:

Fake it until you regain your confidence

Recognize the behaviours that indicate your lack of confidence. Change these behaviours and you will change the way people perceive you.

Understand why you have lost your confidence

Identify the areas of your life in which your self-confidence is lacking.

Face the challenges with courage and wisdom

Career change is not a blind leap of fate, but rather a conscious decision with a calculated risk.

Learn and grow

Develop an attitude of learning from everything and growing into a mature person, an individual oozing with confidence and who can take on any challenges with gusto.

Feel empowered as you regain your confidence

Allow yourself to consider all styles of work, even those that you have not done before. Whatever your decision, you will know that you made your choice having considered all options.

Over the next few blog posts we will consider each of these steps individually, commencing with the first.

Fake it till you make it

With the help of those closest to you try to identify the things you do which indicate your lack of confidence. It’s funny how you can consciously change your behavior and act in a way that suggests you are much more confident that you feel, and people will take that new behaviour on face value.

Pretend you feel confident! Walk like a confident person, speak like a confident person, smile with confidence. Not only can this change the way other people perceive you, but it can also have a big impact on making you actually feel more confident. But that is easier said than done when you are trembling inside!

Next Post: Face Your Fears

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Jenni Proctor

Hi, I'm Jenni Proctor from Boomers Next Step. Remember when the formula for success in life was simply to strive for good marks at school, gain qualifications, get a great job, work hard and save for your retirement? Yes, I believed it too! For years my husband David and I wanted to develop a business that we could operate anywhere in the world, but both of us were educated to be employees.  We had entrepreneurial dreams and ideas, but still had employee mindsets. 14 years ago I took the giant leap!  I left my job in Education to start a business as a Career Counsellor and Coach, helping mature adults transition from one career path to another, and particularly from employment to entrepreneurship.  I had studied long and hard to gain new qualifications but sadly I hadn’t learnt how to market my new business. About 12 years ago we realized that we were not tracking well towards having the sort of retirement we wanted. We’d saved; we’d invested; and like so many other people we’d also lost some money along the way. It didn’t help that my business was not bringing in as much as I had been earning as an employee. Our dreams of extensive travel and helping our family were being replaced by a growing concern that we would outlive our savings. It seemed that a traditional retirement would not allow us to maintain the lifestyle we wanted. I love helping people plan the next phase of their lives, but we realized that was not going to be enough.  We needed a way to create an income stream that would pay for the travel and other lifestyle luxuries we wanted, that would provide mental stimulation, and would interest us both.

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